My first introduction to humour as a child was the jokes my mom used to read out from champak to me and my sister..
Then I grew up a little, I teased my sister all the time…
Once I gifted her a greeting card saying, 'happy birthday my SWEETHEART LITTLE SIS'..and down on the card I wrote a note in brackets ('you know what mom told that me you were an accident..hahaha') and she didn’t speak to me for two days..though I got reprimanded for it, I truly enjoyed it and even she did eventually; getting teased..Today I think that it is the best relationship I have ever had with anyone..My sister is far away and I miss her like an idiot misses a point!
Wikipedia defines these two perspectives of humour we all have experienced with precision –
Humour is, it says – the quality of being amusing
Two – a state of mind..
So it works inside- out..
The term humour also has its roots in the humoral medicine of the ancient Greeks, which taught that the balance of fluids in the human body, known as humours, controlled human health and emotion.
It’s backed by hundreds of researches that people with a strong sense of humour were found to live longer in spite of illness, especially cardiovascular disease and infection..
Some people think that humour is encoded in their dna..researches say humour is encoded in all of our systems but then we have to learn to use it..how? I’ll tell you..
British prime minister Margret Thatcher was very rude with her colleagues. Media too criticized her behavior urging her to be more empathetic but it only offended her. Then a comedy show using puppets called Spitting image started on tv and it showed the prime-minister as a psychopath, whacking her naughty colleagues with a stick..Obviously this wasn’t how Margret Thatcher actually behaved but it was a tenfold exaggeration about a real and painful truth about her. The prime minister saw the show and could then see the point, was able to laugh at herself and she acknowledged that she needed to change her behavior with her colleagues..
We too can use this tactic of humour which can be a little exaggerated to bring about change in someone’s behavior.
I can give the example of Saikiran (indian comedian) who would make fun of his own dark complexion..like he talks about his mother who is obsessed with her son’s dark skin and would desperately try all sort of remedies to make him look fairer, like she would spend more money on almond milk to rub on his skin than on buffalo milk to feed him. She had also pasted a Michael Jackson pic on the wall saying – if his mother can do it. I can do it too!
So humour is just a way to express your perspective in your own unique way..
It keeps the conversations easy and light hearted..it improves our health
Who doesn’t want to be hilarious and smart?
Here are the tips offered by alpha m – a humourist..first tip of being funny - if somebody thinks that your joke was not funny..it could be just that they have a different sense of humour..or it could mean that your joke was actually not funny, maybe out of context..
Pewdiepie has millions of subscribers but there are people who do not find him funny..So don’t get disheartened cuz you can still have fans!
Second tip –
Watch more comedy and take a note about timing and delivery..be more with people who are humorous..yeah humour is contagious and you are going to release more endorphins!
Another great tip to develop a good sense of humour is to look for humour in everyday situations..the other day I got a glass of warm milk for my son..and he asked me to make it warmer..and I was about to lose my temper when he said, "lo aap bhi garam ho gaye!" And it made my anger disappear in seconds!
So that’s what we can do to have more fun in life with the seasoning of wit or comedy …the famous French cartoonist George Walinski said –
"Humor is the shortest road from one person to another.."